A conversation is a dialogue, not a monologue. That’s why there are so few good conversations: due to scarcity, two intelligent talkers seldom meet. ~ Truman Capote
conversation has the power to heal, to create solution, develop a relationship and so much more. yet real and meaningful conversation is somewhat difficult to come by these days. personally i believe it is the result of the fact many people are caught up in the ego and wanting to make a ‘good’ impression that they forego authenticity. not on purpose usually, it has become innately ingrained in our being – our thought processes even.
being authentic as an adult is actually something we have to choose to do, it is no longer natural to us like when we were children. over time we learned to make our parents, teachers and friends accept us because it hurt to see that look in their eye when we weren’t what they anticipated or didn’t agree with their point of view.
authenticity takes practice and an immense amount of awareness to be able to truly see who we are and what we believe below all the layers of learned behavior. i know it’s a challenge i take on every day. unraveling this puzzle is exactly why i created the meetup for this community to be conversations instead of speaker events (http://www.meetup.com/genetically-unemployable); being genetically unemployable is not a walk in the park and we need to have real conversations to break through our individual stopping points and face our greatness.
our minds have a way of letting us believe that if we think about who we want to be long enough it becomes truth, when in fact our actions display a different truth. now we’re confused because we believe and see ourselves one way but our true self is showing us a different reality … which one is authentic?
i have found that real conversation will uncover your authentic self, allowing the other person to call you out. listen, look and learn from yourself. your still in there screaming to come out and be authentic again